Five Ways to Get Revved Up For Sex
Here are five fantastic ways to rev up your sex life.
Sometimes the best way to get to your loins is through your ears. Getting in the mood is about turning on all of your senses. And for me, the sense that I love to activate first is my hearing. Yes, music turns me on.
So create the perfect sex soundtrack. I've been doing this since I was in middle school. (Okay, so it wasn't about sex, per se, it was my soundtrack for making out, but same principle applies.)
I like a musical backdrop and chances are, if I'm playing Heart's "Crazy on You" or Def Leppard's "Pour Some Sugar on Me," it is for a very particular reason. Soundtracks can really set the stage for great sex. So what's on your playlist?
While Fifty Shades of Grey has been a major pop culture phenomenon, it is certainly not the first piece of erotica ever written. How do I know this? Well, I was tasked by my bunkmates at my all-girls sleepaway camp with buying sex-filled books and magazines two decades ago.
On my shopping list: Nancy Friday, The Story of O and, while it's not exactly erotica, Forever (the beautiful Judy Blume teen sex novel). I even bought Playgirl magazines. (Yes, Playgirl.) I loved those stories. Today, I still love them.
Reading erotica is a great way to get in the mood and explore your fantasies (or create new ones), and reading it aloud with a partner can be...well, hot. So even though you may not be into Fifty Shades, there's a lot of good erotica out there. Check it out.
DIY Sex Accessories
It turns out, you don't need a sex shop in order to spice things up in your bedroom. There is a treasure trove of everyday items that can lead a double life: stockings, bobby pins, spatulas, basting brushes and so on.
The base of an electric toothbrush can double as a vibrator.
So your next trip to a mass retailer can be far more interesting when you know that you're secretly shopping for sex products. What products in your home have led a secret life as a sex-cessory?
Think I'm kidding? I'm not. When was the last time you kissed your partner? No, I'm not talking about those little kisses on the cheek or lips.
When was the last time you really made out with a partner. I'm talking about that tangle of tongues, hands on faces, hands on hair, it-feels-so-good-you-don't-know-what's-going-to-happen-next type of kiss.
Yeah, I thought so. Once we start having sex (of any kind), kissing sort of goes out the window. Which is sad, because kissing can cause that rush of blood that flows throughout our bodies and directly into our genitals. Pecks on the cheeks rarely do that. Start acting like a hormonal teenager and make out.
Location. Location. Location
Now I know what some of your are thinking: This is not novel advice. Point taken. For the rest of you reading this, a change of scenery can be great for your sex life.
Sex can get pretty routine. Many of us have sex in the same place in the same way, and it gets pretty mundane. When you switch up the setting, you wind up changing a lot more than location.
Think about it: if you're the bathroom or the kitchen or your kid's bedroom, you're probably not using a bed. You're probably not lying down. That means a new sex position, a different view of your partner and his or her body and the potential for a different type of pleasure.
But you don't have to take my word for it. Help each other out. What works for you? How do you rev up your sex life?
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