Her Vagina is Too Tight
I have a tight vaginal canal. Are there any toys that won’t hurt me?
First of all, before we answer your question about toys for you, we have to discuss some of the other physiological things that may be causing the pain.
Just like penises vary in size, so do vaginal canals.
When a woman is unaroused, the average vaginal canal is three to four inches deep.
When a woman becomes aroused her vaginal canal expands to about six inches on average.
Some women naturally have tighter vaginal canals due to more elastic vaginal walls. So, you may have a shorter than average vaginal canal or very elastic vaginal walls.
Another concern might be that there is lack of lubrication--either natural or artificial. Some women lubricate more than others and lubrication levels change at different stages of a women’s cycle. If you haven’t already done so, you should be using a generous amount of artificial lube during sex and with sex toy use.
As far as toys, there are numerous smaller sex toys on the market. For you, I would recommend that you find a quality sex toy that is under 6 inches in depth and no more than 1.5 inches in diameter.
If you are hoping to be able to insert larger toys in the future you may want to purchase a series of different sized dildos called a dilator kit. With this kit, you start with the smallest dildo and work your way up to the largest dildo, which is often the size of an average erect penis.
Dr. Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross explain why some women's vagina's are too tight and the best way for her to masturbate.