Is It Really Mismatched Libidos?

I like sex but he wants it way more than me. What can I do?

Surprisingly mismatched sex drives have little to do with libido. Look through this list of eight typical sex dampeners to see if any fit your situation.

Body issues Over 80% of women have poor body confidence and don't feel sexy under the sheets.

Prolonged unresolved arguments Holding onto anger puts a big wet blanket on your sex drive.

Power struggles Usually the person who wants less sex is in control of the sex. The more he 'bugs' you to have sex, the more you dig in your heels and refuse.

Big points of unrest and change Receiving a promotion, having a baby, or moving creates big upheavals and bad sex habits are created.

Boring sex Get on, get in, get off. Repeat every week or two. Yawn. Reading a book is more stimulating.

The natural ebb and flow of life Everyone goes through good and bad points. Over time, it gets tricky to constantly realign two people's ebbs and flows.

Different priorities Day-to-day stresses means the priority is taken off our partner.

Health problems like depression, medical issues, or medication.

If you've said yes to any of these, it's time to stop relying on your libido to make sex happen. Your first step: communicate what you can do to make sex suitable for both of you.

Great Sex Tip It's important to schedule sex as it alleviates hard feelings over initiation and frequency.

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Trina Read
Trina Read is the founder of VivaXO.com and Eat Drink Love and CBC radio Relationship Expert. She is a leading relationship and sexual health expert and educator; and  is a best selling author, media expert, syndicated blogger, international speaker, magazine columnist, and spokeswoman. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.
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