Jaiya  gives erotic massage and techniques from her book RedHotTouch.com

Sensually Erotic Sex Tips

After a year of being together it's only the rare couple that ever tries a new tip, trick or technique in the bedroom—even it is the smallest thing like trying a new way of kissing. This is an incredibly important thing for couples to consider because you might alienate your partner or make them feel neglected.

We're not talking swinging from the chandelier. Simply things that make your partner feel like you've got their pleasure in mind; that they're so sexy you want to do something differently and that you want to keep a little bit of spice in your relationship. This can mean the difference between breaking-up and being incredibly bored, or staying together and making things a little more interesting.

Here are a selection of tips for you to try to put a little bit of sizzle back into your sex life.

Bring her skin to life
Skin is packed with nerve endings, many of which lie dormant when under-stimulated.

You cannot give your partner enough sensual touching.

Many men are great at only stroking their lover's erogenous zones. Instead move fingertips back and forth under her hair at the base of her neck, on the back of her arm, on her bottom, etc. This feels wonderful and reassuring as well as sensuous.

Here's a technique that will make her think you are amazingly attentive. Use your fingertips like little droplets of rain—as in a 'pitter-patter' pattern—gently along her skin.

This feels especially wonderful across her pubic mound—the area about a hand's width below her belly button and a couple centimeters above her clitoris.

Because the clitoral region expands out underneath the skin, down her labia and around her pubic bone this will heighten the sensations in the entire area.

When you lightly pitter-patter your fingertips across her pubic bone, it will send tiny vibrations into her clitoris—which will heighten her sexual experience.

Erotic '8' Massage
This will give as much pleasure (or more) than a classic massage stroke but in a very different way.

Your lover needs to be lying on his/ her back or on their stomach. Warm your hands by rubbing them together with some massage oil and start with your hands meeting at their breastbone (or above her breasts). Sweep your hands apart and outwards skimming the sides of the chest and coming back in to meet at their belly button. Then skim them back outwards around the sides of their hips coming in to meet at the top of their pubic bone.

Repeat this action, in reverse, moving back up their body coming into their belly button first, out and around the side of their chest and meeting at the top of their breastbone.

Or if they are on their stomach you can do the same starting at their supper back. Sweep around the sides of their ribcage and meeting your fingertips at their waistline. Then skim back outwards forming the second part of the figure '8', moving your hands out around their buttocks and meeting just at the base of them—where the supper thighs come together to meet the buttocks—a very sensitive sexy area.

Use Luscious Lubricant
Lubricant is a powerful and easy way to heighten your partner's sensitivity and enjoyment of sex. There are many different types of lubricants available at your local pharmacy, internet or adult shops.

You can use lubricants anywhere on your partner's body. Begin by putting a big dollop in the middle of your hand and warming it up before you gently rub it over their body. An extra sizzling place to use lubricant is stroking gently between your partner's legs, over their perineum and up around their buttocks.

If your partner has difficulty becoming aroused then lubricant will really help. Ask your partner to relax while you warm up  lubricant in the palm of your hand. Then reach between their thighs and smooth it into a big luscious sweeping actions from there up and over their pubic mound and lower tummy.

Reapply more lubricant and slip your hand back between their legs and do the sweeping motion again. Repeat a number of times gently with the palm of your hand.

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