Just when I was beginning to understand the nuances of my girlfriend’s clitoris, I am now reading about the G-spot, the A-spot and the U-spot. Help! How important are these for giving my girl mind-blowing sexual experiences? And is there one type or many types of female orgasm?

Excellent question! Unfortunately, the answer is quite unclear. The main reason these questions are extremely difficult to answer is due to the lack of scientific literature supporting these female “hot-spots.” Before debating the presence of these erogenous zones, it is important to define each spot’s theorized function and location.

The G-spot (named after Ernst Gräfenberg) Unlike the clitoris, the G-spot located inside a woman’s vagina. It is a small, highly sensitive area located 5-8 cm (2-3 inches) past the vaginal opening on the upper wall. During female arousal, this area starts to swell resulting in a small patch of the vaginal wall protruding into the vaginal canal. There are different ways of stimulating the G spot, with the most effective being rhythmic pushing and circular friction.

The A-spot (or Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone) The A-spot is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder. Its true location is just above the cervix at the, tough to reach, innermost point of the vagina. The A-spot has been described as the female equivalent of the male prostate. Similar to the prostate, the A-spot has been known to produce fluid and it has been suggested that pressure to the A-spot produces rapid lubrication of the vagina in about ten-seconds.

The U-spot The U-spot is a small patch of sensitive tissue located just above the urethral opening. It has been suggested by American clinical researchers that this area be treated similarly to the clitoris and may result in orgasms to the same degree. Now that we are all on the same page regarding the buttons on the female keyboard, it is important to understand their acceptance by scientific experts. Unfortunately, none of the above (even the g-spot) is generally accepted by all sex-researchers. From the male perspective, the mysteries surrounding female arousal and orgasm are just another example of the vagueness of women.

For example, Beverly Whipple, responsible for popularizing and naming the G-spot, still acknowledges the uncertainty surrounding the G-spot. In one of Whipple’s studies, after stimulation, all of the 400 women reported the presence of the G-spot, however, not everybody liked it being stimulated (meaning that, although it may exist, it may not serve a function during sexual arousal or climax in every female).

Additionally, after skimming through the academic journals, I discovered an even greater degree of uncertainty surrounding the other “hot-spots.” In fact, some women describe their orgasms that originated in different locations (clitoris, G-spot, & U-spot) as feeling different to them while others noted NO difference (so… differing female orgasms are just as debated as differing female “hot-spots”). I think it is also important to note the other ways with which women have reported experiencing an orgasm. Particularly, women have identified experiencing a “happy sneeze” through stimulation of the anus and nipples, and more astonishingly, women have reported experiencing a “Big-O” mentally (through thoughts)!

Today, female orgasm suffers from problems similar to a double edged sword: On one hand, our knowledge regarding the female “hot-spots” and orgasm triggers are ever-expanding. However, on the other hand, many women report never having experienced an orgasm and may feel cheated or inferior because their expectations to do so. In other words, women should not strive for culmination but should focus their attention on just enjoying themselves.

Women can have pleasure and satisfaction WITHOUT orgasm. However, how can women expect a man to provide sexual pleasure resulting in an orgasm if women can not do it themselves? Therefore, it is important for women to experiment with themselves (“double click their own mouse”) to better understand their anatomy and sexual preferences.