Would You Date a Bisexual?


Would you be comfortable dating a bisexual?

Would you be worried that they would leave you for a same-sex individual (if you date an opposite sex person normally?) Would you care? Would you be jealous of their same-sex friends? Would you think this was a great way to access a threesome?

This is some cool home-grown research being done by Heather Armstrong at the University of Ottawa. Here are some Coles Notes findings regarding people’s perceptions of dating a bisexual in a casual, dating, or committed relationships:

For men dating a bisexual woman

  • Men feel moderate pressure to show that a man can be a sexually satisfying partner compared to a women--regardless of relationships type
  • Men show moderate levels of worry that they cannot fulfill all of their partner’s sexual needs
  • Men aren’t very jealous in general but are more jealous about their female partner’s male friends versus her female friends

For women dating a bisexual man

  • Women are more likely to worry that their partner is really gay (a common myth about bisexuality in general)
  • Women are more jealous in general (*sigh*) and feel more jealous about their male partner’s male friends versus his female friends
  • Women are more worried that their partner would cheat on them or leave them for a same-sex partner

And what about those threesomes?

Bisexual Woman + Male Partner + random female = Men find the idea or fantasy of having a threesome with two women arousing and are likely to participate if given the opportunity.

But even though men want to have a threesome, they don’t expect to. AND wanting and expecting a threesome and the importance of said threesome decline as the relationship level becomes more involved.

Bisexual Man + Female Partner + random male = Women do not want to have a threesome with their partner and another man and they worry that their male partner might want to have a threesome with her and another man.

Perhaps this information helps you determine if dating a bisexual is for you.


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Jocelyn wentland
Jocelyn Wentland
Jocelyn Wentland is a Sex Researcher, PhD student at the University of Ottawa. You will find her blogs are sexual, risqué (she likes to push the envelope), potentially offending, fun, but most of all, real. Read more of Jocelyn’s blog at Sex Research and The City.com. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.
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