Question:
Also, we all have bad hair days. You mention “bad body days”. What’s a bad body day for you and would you say you ever have “bad vagina days”?

Dr. Trina’s Response:
I believe I answered this with question #3.

Question

You state that men in your past and present have a much more forgiving view of your body and do not see the flaws you see. (this is something we are fascinated by at First, because we believe this to be true too, but it¹s not always easy for women to believe). Why is this important for women to try and remember? Do you think if more women felt this way they would not be as interested in seeking a labiaplasty or other types of surgery?

Dr. Trina’s Response:
I believe women take their insecurities out on their body.

Women say, “if I just had bigger breasts/ a slim waist/ a symmetrical vagina, etc., my life would be better.” Then once having their body reshaped, it becomes like a band-aid covering a great gashing low self-esteem wound.

My mottos is: being insecure about your body is a very selfish and unhealthy contribution you give to your relationship.

The augmentation/ surgery will give a woman outside acknowledgement/ validation, yet it will never fill the hollow void sitting at her core. Once she works at filling-in her sense of self, it will not matter whether or not she receives outside validation. Ironically, with a good sense of self the outside acknowledgement is what will become hollow.

Yet, in the “real world” women are inundated every day about how inadequate they are. Getting surgery done with their body is a quick and easy fix. And here in North America we are all about, quick, easy and instant gratification.

In my seminars I say to women, “If you could take an eraser and not only erase your most wobbly bit and poof your body in that area would be perfect, do you think it would solve your body image problem?” At this point, most women nod their head.

I then say, “Really think about it. Most women would simply transfer their insecurities to another area of their body.”

This is why plastic surgeons are now having to stop doing body-alterations after ten operations—because they realize women are dealing with a much bigger self-esteem issue.