Question 

I’ve read some studies on sex and marital satisfaction and most point to a grey area of ambiguity mainly due to the fact that the relationship between sex and marital satisfaction is more complex than many think. Why do you think there are so many complexities in a study between sex and marital satisfaction?

Dr. Trina’s Response:

Each person has their own unique social & sexual fingerprint—how they look at life, how they want to experience life, their level of spirituality, their comfort level with sexuality, their biological age, etc. When two people come together their unique finger prints will create a unique coupling. If these same two people went and married other people, they would create an altogether different of coupling. 

Scientific studies that try to cross section marriage & sexual satisfaction have finite variables that they are able to study. The subtle innuendos that drive a marriage are often lost in the research. Facts & data are not about the grey area of innuendos.  Personally, I am extremely wary of these studies. Why? How these studies/reporters who report on them/ then it becoming pop-culture with society espousing, “this is what a ‘normal’ marriage looks like” is far more detrimental than it is useful. 

First, I’m not certain how realistic the statistics are. Any statistic can be proved or disproved depending on who’s doing the study. Also, sex information tends to be skewed—i.e. I’ve read too many surveys that say long term couples are having sex 3 to 4 times a week… I have met very few that do. Once every two weeks is more realistic.  Second, the keeping up with the Jones’ syndrome it sets up can and will implode the marriage.