Here are some easy to implement, long term habits a busy mom can do to bring the spark back to their relationship:

Three one-minutes a day to create a sexy moment.

(1) Make sure to touch your partner in a non-sexual way every day. The busier a woman gets the more likely she is to segment touch with her partner to the bedroom. Then when sex is initiated touching becomes sensory overload—not to mention that her head is racing ninety miles an hour and her body doesn’t have time to catch up. Touching every day in a non-sexual way helps to both keep her in her body and keep their intimate connection going.

(2) Make your partner right at least once a day. It’s a no brainer to say women have to like the person they are having sex with. And yet, after the honeymoon stage is over, both men and women start to pick, pick, pick at each other’s “flaws” making the partner more wrong than they do right. By reminding herself at least once a day that she made a good choice in partners will segue nicely to the bedroom.

(3) Indulge and be selfish. Even though women’s liberation gave us our right to orgasm, women still put their sexual needs second in the bedroom. In order for a woman to build up her self esteem enough to make herself an equal in the bedroom, she must first take baby steps outside the bedroom. Once a day she needs to look for ways to treat herself—buy herself a latte, indulge a heavenly scented bath when the kids have gone to bed, anything to break the martyr cycle our society has put on her.