Question 

Stress is ruining my sex life. I can’t relax enough - even for a quickie- to enjoy it. I just keep thinking about everything on my to-do list. My mate understands, but is worried I’m too stressed out. What should I do?

Dr. Trina’s Response: 

The obvious question you need to ask yourself is, “Is it really worth your mind, body, connection with your partner, quality time with your family to be so stressed out all the time?”

Too many women, like you, live inside of their heads and are disconnected from their body. What happens then is your body becomes so touch deprived that when you go into the bedroom and your partner starts caressing you, it isn’t an overload to your senses.

Not surprisingly, super busy women who are stressed out are touch deprived. Soothing as well as healing touch is the must-have elixir to a healthy relationship. In order to start turning your situation around, you need to make a concerted effort to non-sexually touch your partner one minute every day.

Some women feel that as soon as she initiates touch with her partner, he will immediately assume sex is on the menu. If this is how you feel then you need to first discuss with your partner what you are doing. Tell him you are setting up a safe space where you can be touched, feel good and not have to worry about sex being on his mind.

Trust me. Once you create effortless touch between the two of you, easing away from your stressful day into the sex will be that much easier and that much more enjoyable.