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This article first appeared in the Calgary Herald on August 29th, 2008.
For more information go to: http://sexualhealthaccess.org/images/pdf/itl_sept_2008.pdf
What’s really behind decline of teen sex
By LAURA WERSHLER
With a newly released StatsCan study on Canadian teen sexual behaviour and a new book out of the
U.S. raising the spectre of sex-addicted adolescents, parents must be left scratching their heads.
Let’s [...]

Are You Having Fun Sex Often Enough?
The Need for SEX COACHING
Low sexual occurrence among busy couples is epidemic. A conservative statistic claims over 40 million North American couples endure this harsh reality. Does that mean having great sex is a lost cause?
Luckily, Dr. Trina Read has opened a sex coaching practice to help those [...]

Dear Dr. Read,
I am a 28 year old male currently separated with a daughter (who is with my wife). I read your article “What’s A Guy To Do?”, and it really hit home for me. In fact, my separation from my wife is a result of what you talk about. I’m sure you get many [...]

Dr. Trina’s Answer: 
That very much depends on the parents. 
It takes a lot of moxie to be able to say to your 4 year old child, “Honey, you watch your favorite video and have your favorite snack.  Please don’t disturb mom and dad while our door is closed because we are having our special time.”  I [...]

Question 
I’ve been divorced a year, but have to admit there’s still a powerful sexual connection with my ex and sometimes I want to pick up the phone and suggest a casual hook-up. Is it O.K. to have sex with an ex?
Dr. Trina’s Response
First know you are not some freak’oid because you want to have sex with [...]

Question 
I have a huge crush on George Clooney and like to daydream about having sex with him even though I am very happily married. Is this normal?
Dr. Trina’s Response: 
George Clooney…yum. Good choice
Fantasy is a healthy part of any relationship. It allows you to be, do, and have sexual encounters in your regular life that are not [...]

Question 
I love co-sleeping with our toddler, but my mate finds it’s a real turn-off romantically to share a bed. Is there any way to compromise?
Dr. Trina’s Response: 
There’s always a way to compromise. Two things you can do in your situation:
(1) Negotiate. A key point in negotiation is what you are will to negotiate and what you [...]

Question 
Stress is ruining my sex life. I can’t relax enough - even for a quickie- to enjoy it. I just keep thinking about everything on my to-do list. My mate understands, but is worried I’m too stressed out. What should I do?
Dr. Trina’s Response: 
The obvious question you need to ask yourself is, “Is it really [...]

Question 
My mate wants sex almost every night, but I’m too tired from work, cooking, dealing with the kids etc. What can I do? 
Dr. Trina’s Reponse:
Great question. Most women don’t realize that when they unconsciously harbor such negative feelings, it fundamentally affects their sex lives.
As such here is the easy-and yet tremendously hard-solution. Communication. You need [...]