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Question: A quote from you: “Women in general have a pretty twisted sense of body image. Those insecurities are personified when it comes to their vaginas.” Please elaborate. Dr. Trina’s Response: I feel because too many women have a “doughnut hole sensibility” around their vagina, they never develop a “relationship” with it. Every day a …

Question Even though you are now more comfortable and confident about your body than you were as a teenager, what kinds of body insecurities manage to creep out from time to time? (You mention hating to try on lingerie under the dressing room lights. What kind of flaws do you see?) Dr. Trina’s Response: I …

Question: Also, we all have bad hair days. You mention “bad body days”. What’s a bad body day for you and would you say you ever have “bad vagina days”? Dr. Trina’s Response: I believe I answered this with question #3. Question You state that men in your past and present have a much more …

Questions How did you learn how to gauge if your self-esteem is low, medium or high? Do you do anything special for yourself on a low self-esteem day? Dr. Trina’s Response: I believe every person has woken up and just wanted to pull the sheets back over their head—a pretty good indication of a low …

Question Along the same lines, how do you “try to act like a confident person” in intimate situations that make you feel uncomfortable? How does this phrase also help you outside the bedroom? Dr. Trina’s Response: As stated in the previous question, I feel uncomfortable “putting on an act” and pretending to enjoy being touched …

Question In what kinds of situations do you practice your motto, “fake it until you make it”, and how does this phrase relate to feelings you may be having about your genitalia? Please provide an example of how reciting this phrase helps change your way of thinking. Dr. Trina’s Response: When I wake up feeling …

Question Why do you think it took until age 33 to say the word vagina out loud?” Dr. Trina’s Response: Purely socialization. I grew up in a small, prairie city (Regina, SK,  Canada right above Fargo, ND—to give you some idea). No one that I know there, to this day, can say the word vagina out …

Question: Certain instances in your childhood seemed to lead you to feeling unsure and even embarrassed about your vagina for many years. You did not look at your own vagina until the age of 33. Please offer a few examples of how these negative feelings impacted other areas of your life, such as overall self-esteem, …