Question My husband says he doesn’t want to have any more kids, but refuses to have a vasectomy. I’ve told him it’s only fair since I had to go through childbirth. What can I do to convince him? Dr. Trina’s Response: Hmmmm. Giving guilt (i.e. you suffered to have your children) that will inevitably lead …
Being a Parent and Still Wanting Sex–Part #5 (ParentsConnect.com)
Question I’ve been divorced a year, but have to admit there’s still a powerful sexual connection with my ex and sometimes I want to pick up the phone and suggest a casual hook-up. Is it O.K. to have sex with an ex? Dr. Trina’s Response First know you are not some freak’oid because you want to …
Being a Parent and Still Wanting Sex–Part #4 (ParentsConnect.com)
Question I have a huge crush on George Clooney and like to daydream about having sex with him even though I am very happily married. Is this normal? Dr. Trina’s Response: George Clooney…yum. Good choice Fantasy is a healthy part of any relationship. It allows you to be, do, and have sexual encounters in your regular …
Being a Parent and Still Wanting Sex–Part #3 (ParentsConnect.com)
Question I love co-sleeping with our toddler, but my mate finds it’s a real turn-off romantically to share a bed. Is there any way to compromise? Dr. Trina’s Response: There’s always a way to compromise. Two things you can do in your situation: (1) Negotiate. A key point in negotiation is what you are will to …
Being a Parent and Still Wanting Sex–Part #2 (ParentsConnect.com)
Question Stress is ruining my sex life. I can’t relax enough – even for a quickie- to enjoy it. I just keep thinking about everything on my to-do list. My mate understands, but is worried I’m too stressed out. What should I do? Dr. Trina’s Response: The obvious question you need to ask yourself is, …
Being a Parent and Still Wanting Sex–Part #1 (ParentsConnect.com)
Question My mate wants sex almost every night, but I’m too tired from work, cooking, dealing with the kids etc. What can I do? Dr. Trina’s Reponse: Great question. Most women don’t realize that when they unconsciously harbor such negative feelings, it fundamentally affects their sex lives. As such here is the easy-and yet tremendously …
Frustrated Male Wants More Sex
Question Last January, my wife and I were at a nice restaurant having dinner, (date night). I was, as usual, making my latest pitch for something new we should be trying to spice up our sex lives. Not only did she say no, but she told me that our sex life was fine, and that …
Marital Sexual Satisfaction–Part #3 (Hitched on-line magazine)
Question Why, mainly in males, is the duration of marriage a factor with sexual inactivity? Dr. Trina’s Response: (1) Sex for men is one of the few ways they can show emotion. It is their emotional connection to their partner-most people believe it is the woman. When the sex stops, so does his main outlet …
Three One-Minutes to Better Sex
Here are some easy to implement, long term habits a busy mom can do to bring the spark back to their relationship: Three one-minutes a day to create a sexy moment. (1) Make sure to touch your partner in a non-sexual way every day. The busier a woman gets the more likely she is to …
Marital Sexual Satisfaction–Part #2 (Hitched on-line magazine)
Question If a couple is having some kind of discourse within their relationship do to reasons other than intercourse, what are some ways a couple can find marital satisfaction outside of sex? Dr.Trina’s Response: Long term couples tend to lose: (1) Non-sexual touch which doesn’t include hugging, cuddling—it’s more the pragmatic hand-holding, bum squeezing, shoulder …
