Trina Read

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Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read is the founder of The Business Of Sex Speaker Agency. She is a leading relationship and sexual health expert and educator; and is a best selling author, media expert, was a CBC radio Relationship columnist, syndicated blogger, international award winning speaker, newspaper & magazine columnist, and spokeswoman. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

Trina Read's Articles and Videos

How Much Sex is Normal?

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There is no average for how many times a couple makes love in a week. End of story. Of the billions of people on this planet, you have a unique libido. Your life experience and stage of life create the ebb and flow of your sexuality.

Bad Breath Stops Great Sex

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Good sex is all about preparation and the little things that make a big difference. Yet in the world of sex etiquette, how do you tell someone they have bad breath? Plus tips on how to prevent halitosis.

Should a Cheater Kiss and Tell?

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I cheated on my boyfriend and don't know whether I should tell him. I think it's better to not say anything and let it be water under the bridge.

Is It Really Mismatched Libidos?

I like sex but he wants it way more than me. What can I do?

Can I Have Sex During My Period?

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There isn't any physiological reason why a couple shouldn't have sex during a woman's period. All aspects of her sexual response are the same. In fact, couples can use a vibrator or have oral sex, if they choose.

Can a Woman Have an Orgasmic Birth?

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Is it true that some women experience an orgasmic birth? Plus see how the medicalized birthing process makes it less enjoyable, even sensual, for too many pregnant women.

Top Five Ways Women Can Desire Sex

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Many women are plagued with a low female sexual desire. Luckily, here are five easy ways to for her to feel sexually satisfied and also ways she can spice up her sex life.

The Best Female Orgasm Is...

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Too many women believe there is something sexually wrong with her because she isn't able to have an orgasm during intercourse. Or she can't have a G-spot orgasm. How did all of this "I'm not having the 'right' orgasm" craziness get started?

Woman Wants to Orgasm During Intercourse

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Contrary to pop-culture belief, not all women can have a vaginal and g-spot orgasm. This is due to her genetics and not because she’s uptight and/ or doing something wrong during sex.

Bringing Sex Toys into Your Bedroom

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I want to bring sex toys into our bedroom but don’t know how my guy will react.

Can Scent Get You in the Mood?

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Scent certainly can help. Scent is the only sense out of the five that can bypass the rational brain and go straight to the limbic system, which is also in charge of your memory and emotions.

She Wants to Stop Faking Orgasm

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I’ve been faking orgasms and I don’t know how to stop. Do I just tell him? How do I tell him?

He Likes Blowup Dolls. So What?

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Fetishes are something many people don’t understand and therefore labeled as freaks. Yet, most kink enthusiasts are pretty normal. Plus watch video on artist who makes life size dolls for men.

Online Porn Can Be Sexually Healthy

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When you hear on the news about online porn or cyber sex, it is automatically assumed there is something wrong with the person or relationship. Not once has it been said that cyber sex could be a healthy sexual outlet for someone in a happy, stable relationship.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

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Sexual addiction is, in my opinion, an easy and convenient label for a very complicated problem. As it stands there is a lack of empirical evidence and scientific agreement on whether such a condition even exists.

No Strings Attached Massage

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Surprise her with a lovely massage. It doesn't have to be an hour-long affair with candles and massage oils; a ten minute hand or foot massage will provide similar results.

Foreplay for Men

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While dating, you probably hung on his every word while he talked about those things that interested him. It was part of your charm and why he found you so darn attractive. Bringing that when you first met magic back to life can be as simple as taking an interest in him.

Affectionate Touch

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Touching is one of the easiest ways to create intimacy outside of the bedroom. It's easy, F-R-E-E, and makes us feel good.

Do Aphrodisiacs Really Work?


Find out why some foods are considered aphrodisiacs and good for healthy sexual function. As well a list of five aphrodisiac foods.

Bring Sexy Fun Back

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Responsibility and mind-blowing sex are like oil and water...they just don't mix. Thing is, sex is an important component to a healthy relationship. So how can a hard working couple bring fun sex back into their relationship?

Give an Unexpected Gift

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Getting a gift on Valentine's Day is always nice. However, it's the non-holiday days when we receive a gift that can bring those magic, filled with intimacy moments. It takes you back to those nostalgic 'newbie days' when you wrote each other love notes, and little gifts to express your love.

Sexual Monogamy is Not Monotony

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To celebrate sex in a long term relationship here are the top five reasons monogamy is not monotony.

French Women's Obsession

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Have you ever wondered why French women are so sexy and have that 'je ne sais quoi' appeal? Here's why.

Do You Have Enough Sex?

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How much sex is normal? Do couples have unrealistic expectations about how much sex they should have?

Be at Her Beck and Call for a Day

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There isn’t a gal anywhere who wouldn’t love her guy to treat her like a queen and create a lavish day just for her. By taking care of her it translates to appreciation for all of her hard work.

Kiss Stress Goodbye

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Too many of us are stressed out to feel sexy or sexual? Zap stress with soothing one-on-one time. With everyone under so much stress these days, it’s important to take a step back and look for ways to make a relaxing space for you and your partner.

How Do I Love Thee?

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How do I love thee...let me count the ways. Here is a no fail romantic gesture any guy can easily do to be a super stud.

Afternoon Delight

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Is a routine rut weighing your relationship down? There's no better way to breath new life into a stale relationship than an unexpected bit of fun.

Keep Connected During Big Change

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Here's what a couple can do to get their sex life back after a big life change—like having a baby or relocating to a different city.

Sexy Scavenger Hunt

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Does your relationship need a little sexy pick me up? Try sexy sleuthing.

Good Sex Starts With Good Communication.

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The better your communication, the better your sex will be. Here are five simple ideas to get the communication started with your mate.

How Do You Show Your Love?

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When we partner up with someone we think that love is all encompassing. However, how a person expresses their love is unique...and sometimes confusing to the receiving partner.

Sexy Spa Date Night

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Every relationship not only deserves a little TLC, it's absolutely needed to stay connected over the long term. Creating a spa date is a fun way to keep intimacy alive.

Flirt Outside Your Relationship

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Flirting is window shopping for those in a committed relationship. In fact, innocent flirting can add an immense amount of zest to your intimacy and sex life. Here's how to bring flirting into your relationship.

Talk Dirty to Me

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Talking dirty during sex can be a lot of fun and what most people need to get good at it is practice. So it’s usually the lack of practice that makes people nervous and embarrassed.

Girlfriend Wants Better Oral Sex

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My new boyfriend doesn’t like to give oral sex. I’m not satisfied without it but I don’t want to pressure him to do something he doesn’t want. How do I handle this?

Cheap and Cheesy Sex Night

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We all need a good laugh and a little bit of fun in our routine-rut lives. Here's an easy way to add some zip to a regular evening that will bring a smile to your lips for months to come.

Why Vibrators Were Invented

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In the Victorian Era women would go to their doctor and get a 'genital massage'. The doctors would get these women off to a point of orgasm to help with her 'hysteria'.

Your Own Sexy Photo Album

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There are many of us who are (closeted) exhibitionists. That is the average Jane or Joe gets turned-on while 'exhibiting' themselves in front of a crowd or camera. Why not create your own sexy photo album?

Shop Together for Sexy Lingerie

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When was the last time you bought a sexy pair of underwear? Whether actually going to a store or doing it online make your sexy lingerie shopping trip that much more fun by having your partner tag along and help you pick something out.

Small Romantic Gestures

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A touch can say a thousand words. A touching gesture or heartfelt comment only takes seconds and yet can go a long way to keeping a couple close.

Create More Sexual Anticipation

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You've probably heard that our brain is our biggest sex organ. Sexual desire--the thoughts you have about sex before, during and after--can have a profound impact on the quality (and perhaps quantity) of your sexual experience.

Sex on a Plate

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Create the Best Morning Ever

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Want to start your day thinking it's the best morning ever? Here's a few suggestions.

Curious About the Swinging Lifestyle?


There are many theories on how, when and where swinging originated. Can swinging help a marriage? Find out where it all started, as well get a sneak peak into a lifestyle swinging couples retreat.

Your Top Ten Couple List

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Almost every busy couple wishes they could add some romantic zip into their love life. Problem is, it can be difficult to discuss new ideas with our partner. Here's an easy solution.

Five Date Nights Ideas

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Forget the same-old date night. Your new mantra needs to be: "Let's try something new." It's important to make your date nights memorable and do different things. Yes, it does take a little extra planning and it will always be worth the effort.

She's Worried About Her Intense Orgasms

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I'm wondering about the intensity of my orgasms. They have been very intense for 15 years but recently I'm doing full sit ups and violently slamming my upper body back onto the bed repeatedly. Is this normal?

How To Do A Mini-Striptease

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Doing a sexy striptease for your partner is empowering for you and makes them feel incredibly special. Watch this video to learn a basic routine you can do in the comfort of your living room.

More Couples Want Open Relationships

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Today we see more monogamous couples want to try open relationships. Is monogamy on the decline? Here's how you can talk to your partner about opening up your sexual relationship.

The Business Of Sex Speaker Agency

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The Business Of Sex Speaker Agency puts your product directly into mainstream hands.

The BOS Speaker Agency is your one-stop shop to create a buzz and build your brand. Our staff will do all the leg work from finding the right speaker, locating the perfect event(s), booking local media opportunities, setting up your display table/ booth, staffing the event, tearing down and final data analysis.

Dr. Trina Read

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Sexologist and relationship expert, Dr. Trina E. Read, has earned her reputation for being an entertaining, funny, easy to understand, and intelligent professional speaker.  Trina’s style is like having a conversation with your best girl-friend as she has a way of putting her audience at total ease with the topic of sex.   

Six Month Sex Challenge--Introduction

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Originally posted in 2009. It’s been six weeks since I had my newest son, Evan, and it’s time to resume "sexual relations". After my first son--who is now 26 months--trying to get sex back on track was, at times, a complete gong show. That was with me making a concerted effort to have sex at least once a week.

Week #1: How Do We Make Time For Sex?!?!?

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With my first son, making time on weekends for sex was pretty standard and Saturday became “the day” to have sex. Admittedly, I was a bit smug that everything was going to go to my Six Month Sex Challenge plan.

And then all hell broke lose…

Week #2: My Sexual Needs vs. the Bills & Jets Football Game

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It turns out, getting my sexual needs met won’t be smooth sailing--unless I put my foot down and make it happen.

Lesson learned from last week: Finding time to have sex has become a lot more challenging with baby #2. I can no longer count on weekend naps to fit in sex. Crap!!!

Week #3: Finding Intimacy in the Funniest of Places

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This week I focus on my husband’s sexual needs...but there were a few twists and turns before we were able to get there.

Lesson learned from last week: Having my sexual needs met won’t always be greeted with the type of enthusiasm I would like.

Week #4: What the !?*!?&? Was I Thinking Trying to Have Sex this Week?

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I am at the end of the week stretched way too thin and stressed out. Not surprisingly, I was snappy with my husband for most of this week. And he in turn was snappy with me.

Lessons learned from last week: Intimacy can be found in so many places outside the bedroom--I just need to pay attention.

Week #5: Two and a Half Christmas Stories

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Two and a half stories for this blog. Both seem unrelated to my current sex life and, yet, both are integral to what is presently happening.

Lesson learned from last week: When I stretch myself too thin, I get snappy with my husband and, of course, I don’t want to have sex with him.

Week #6: New Year And A New Sex Life?

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Is good intention enough to help a flagging sex life?

Lesson learned from last week: Our sex life might never be the hot crazy sex like it once was; and yet we now can create something deeper and richer to take us over time.

Week #7: Breastfeeding Is Making Intercourse Uncomfortable


I need to use a silicone based lubricant, and lots of it, while I’m breastfeeding.

Lesson learned from last week: Trying to get sex back on track only highlights the couple sex and relationship challenges that weren't dealt with before the baby was born.

Week #8: The Best Foreplay Ever Is...

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The best foreplay EVER is day dreaming of a warm all-about-me massage.

Lesson learned from last week: I will need to use plenty of silicone lube to make intercourse comfortable while I’m breastfeeding full time.

Week #9: Struck With The Baby Blues

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The We-Vibe is a freakin’ marvelous sex toy!

Lesson learned from last week: I’m really digging the weeks when sex is all about me and all my daydreaming becomes wonderful foreplay.

Week #10: Buying Lingerie Was A Bust

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I thought buying a cute bra and panty set would help me feel sexy again. It did just the opposite.

Lesson I learned from last week: Using the We-Vibe vibrator wasn’t as uncomfortable as I thought it might be.


Week #11: It's An All-About-My-Husband Sex Palooza


It’s an all about my husband Valentine’s month—so we’re trying guy sex stuff.

Lesson I learned from last week: Learning to love my body won’t be as simple as buying a new set of lingerie. But at least I’ve made a start.

Week #12: Praise His Penis!

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Men deserve to have a toy of their own in your adult toy chest.

Lesson I learned from last week: Using the vibrating cockring made my perineum feel great.

Week #13: Finding Intimacy From A Board Game

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Intimacy has been shifted to my baby and I need to create it with my husband.

Lesson I learned from last week: Male masturbation toys are a positive alternative for couples in ‘dry’ periods of couple sex.

Week #14: It's Time To Try Porn

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A little porn can add a lot of spice…it’s finding the right porn to suit your taste and values.

Lesson I learned from last week: Even though get my fill of intimacy with interactions from my children, it’s important I keep a solid intimate connection with my husband. And making that connection is so much fun.

Why I Didn't Want To Write Another Book

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I’ve decided to write another book called The Sex Course. It wasn’t an easy decision. Not by a long stretch. In fact, it took many years to get to a point where I felt I had something worthy enough to write about.

Week #15: New Mom = No Sex Drive

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Week #15 of the Six Month Sex Challenge: New moms are most likely not suffering from low libido, so ‘cures’ to help low libido are most likely not going to work.

Lesson I learned from last week: Porn can be a fun once in a while treat; HOWEVER I need to find porn that I like…

What Is The Sex Course About?

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Four very busy women's sex lives go from just meh, to toe-curling, oh-ya. And your sex life can too. Each woman is at a different age and stage of her life, unhappy with her sex life and wants to do something about it. But is she willing to put in the work?

Why You Should Read The Sex Course

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In a traditional self-help book, the reader is asked to go through exercises to improve her present situation. In The Sex Course, the reader gains insight and perspective from what the four characters do while going through each class exercise.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Mom Doesn’t Feel Like Sex After Baby

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Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read answers--the common--question from a woman who had a baby over a year ago and still doesn’t feel like having sex.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Lube Makes Sex a Lot More Fun


Do you know the difference between water based and silicone lubricant? When should you use a water based lubricant versus a silicone based lubricant. And which works best with silicone sex toys.

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, answers these questions as well as the importance of lubricant.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Help! My Sex Life Is In A Rut

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In this video Dr. Trina Read talks about how sex can become stale and what couples can do to get out of a sex rut. She then discusses what couples can do to make it fun.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: How Can A Woman Orgasm During Intercourse?

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Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, answers the question, "I've never had a vaginal orgasm during intercourse. Is there something wrong with me that I can't orgasm?

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: It's Probably Not Mismatched Libidos

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One partner having a higher sex drive than the other is a common couple conundrum People assume mismatch libidos is an issue of low libido when in fact it probably has nothing to do with libido. Rather all the outside forces of our day-to-day lives.

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, talks about the top seven reasons why so many women lack a sex drive and, more importantly, what a couple can do.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Sex in the Shower? Yes Please!

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Slippery, wet and wild: a way to get dirty while getting completely clean. We are of course talking about shower sex.

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, shows you how to take your shower sex from fun to fantastic.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Making Time For Sex Now That Kids Are Older


Trying to get sex back on track after kids can be challenging.

A couple who have been together for ten years with two kids asks, Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, "Now that my kids are older, my husband and I want to have better sex more often. How can we make this happen?"

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: What Can Help A Woman's Low Libido?


For a woman experiencing a sexual low libido there are many options available to her. But is her best option the male hormone testosterone?

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read answers, "I read somewhere that testosterone will help improve my low libido. Is this true?"

Please Note: After this video was made, the FDA approved Addyi for women.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: The Easiest Sex Positions for Inexperienced Couples

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In this video Dr. Trina Read answers, "What are the easiest sex positions for an inexperienced couple in their 30s can start with? Any other tips or tricks?"

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Why Everyone Needs A Sex Book


Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, discusses the benefits of buying sex books and specifically talks about her book, Till Sex Do Us Part.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: When Does Virtual Sex Become Cheating?

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Online pornography, chat rooms and hooking up are here to stay. As such couples need to understand when virtual sex constitutes cheating. Or if someone is having more sex online than off line, is that unhealthy?

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, answers, "My husband goes onto My Space and 'hooks-up' with other players. Isn't this considered cheating?"


Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Couple Massage Makes Sex Luscious

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A good massage can take your love making from good to wow-zers. And it makes a lot of sense; all that luscious touch can really get our sexual juices flowing. Trouble is many couples are intimidated to bring massage into their bedroom because they just don't know how to do it.

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read talks about how couples can bring massage into their lovemaking.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: How To Have Bigger And Better Orgasms With Kegels

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Just two minutes a day can make for bigger and better orgasms--for women and men.

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, teaches you how to do Kegel exercises. She also answers a viewer question, "I feel so self conscious during intercourse because I feel like I'm 'loose'. What can I do?"

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: We-Vibe Couple's Sex Toy

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Sexologist, Dr. TrinaRead, discusses why couples need to try the We-Vibe II, how it works and it's many benefits.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Do Women Have A Sexual Peak?

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Is there a time in a woman's life where she hits her sexual stride and wants a lot of sex?

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, discusses whether or not women reach their sexual peak mid-30s. Her answer might surprise you.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Having Sex After a Miscarriage

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A reader asks: "I've recently had a miscarriage. We want to start trying again to have another baby, but I'm really scared. What should we do?"  In this video Dr. Trina discusses how to move forward and make the sexual experience good for you and your partner.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: When A Man Loses His Sex Drive


Men experience the same ebbs and flows to their sexual desire as women. Unfortunately, stereotypically men believe their sexual prowess is the indicator of their manhood--which makes it all that more devastating if he does lose his sexual desire.

Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, discusses what to do if his sex drive has taken a nose dive and he no longer feels like sex.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: Sexing Up Your Sex with a Sex Game

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Bringing new ideas into the bedroom can feel overwhelming; especially since most of us just don't have the words to describe what we want. What's the easiest way to try new things? Get a sex game. You simply roll the dice, move your player and the board tells you what you need to do. The best part? Afterwards, you and your partner can discuss what you liked (and disliked) and what you might want to try again. Easy-peasy. In this video Dr. Trina explains how couples can get out of their sex rut by simply playing the fun sex board game, Embrace

Dr. Trina Read's Speaker Reel: Part 1

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Watch the dynamic, funny and educational Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, in action as she speaks candidly about sex to both audiences and the media.

Her "chicken-dance-sex" is sure to make you laugh.

Dr. Trina Read's Speaker Reel: Part 2

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Watch the dynamic, funny and educational Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, in action as she speaks candidly about sex to both audiences and the media.

The Sex Chef: Make Your Sex Life Spicy With This Chorizo and Chestnut Soup

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Sex can be a lot like soup...comfortable. The Sex Chef, Dr. Trina Read, shows you how to make a spicy chorizo and chestnut soup, and talks about why spice is so important for your sex life. It's all about your Sensual Tastes.

The Sex Chef: Food and Sex Are The Very Best Way to Make Up

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Ever have one of those couple-fighting days? No matter how you try to stay out of each other's way, you are still grating on each other's last nerve...

In this video The Sex Chef, Dr. Trina Read, tells you how to make a delicious apple and cranberry pie, liquor coffee and offers tips on how to move from grumpy to a make-up sex.

The Sex Chef: The Way To A Man's Heart Is Making Him The Perfect Steak

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We often hear that men should help their woman feel special but rarely do we hear that a woman should help their man feel special. So ladies it's time for a Man Day. 

In this video The Sex Chef, Dr. Trina Read shows you how to make a delicious steak with Chimicurri sauce and discusses why it's important to "Love Bomb" your man.


The Sex Chef: Heat Up Your Libido With These Sensuous Snow Cones

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Watch as The Sex Chef, Dr. Trina Read, shows you how to make this easy, delicious and sensuous snow cone food recipe.

Dr. Trina Read Discusses Sex after Baby On Calgary's Breakfast TV


Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, discusses the trials and tribulations of getting back into the bedroom after baby.

She's even issued her "Six Month Sex Challenge" to her husband and herself and will be detailing it in her blog.

Dr. Trina Gives Sex Advice On CBC's The Stephen and Chris Show


Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, talks sex on CBC's Stephen and Chris Show. She even manages to make Chris blush.

Dr. Trina Read's Book Featured on Calgary's Global TV


Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read's new book, "Till Sex Do Us Part", was highlighted on Global Calgary TV news. She was interviewed while doing a book signing at a downtown bookstore.

Watch the customers reactions to her book—very funny

Dr. Trina Read's Best Selling Book, Till Sex Do Us Part

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Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, talks about why she wrote her best selling book, plus what women will learn when they read "Till Sex Do Us Part".

Dr. Trina Read's Speaker Reel

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Watch the dynamic, funny and educational Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read, in action as she speaks candidly about sex to both audiences and the media.

Her "chicken-dance-sex" is sure to make you laugh.

Dr. Trina's Sex Talk: How Moms Can Spice Things Up In The Bedroom


Spicing things up, keeping a relationship fresh and fun can sometimes be a challenge for busy parents. Dr. Trina gives practical, down to earth tips and advice on what couples can do to reconnect with each other.