Have Sex After Kids
Woman doesn’t feel like sex after baby
Dr. Trina answers - the common - question from a woman who had a baby over a year
ago and still doesn’t feel like having sex.
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I am always in awe of how well parents take care of their kids. Prevention and safety are a number one priority, what with regulation car seats, regulation cribs, and baby-proofing houses. I sometimes wonder if parents gave the same amount care and attention to their sexual relationship, to where might it be now and in the future.
Be very aware that, if you are not careful now, you may develop poor sexual habits that will carry through for the rest of your relationship. Please do not go with the flow and let sex magically happen on its own. Instead, apply the same kind of vigor and pragmatism you had towards sex when trying to conceive.
I was at a friend’s house for supper when their teenage boy decided to embarrass his parents. He said, “Ya’, I wish my parents would keep it down when they are having sex.” To which I replied, “Don’t you think they deserve some fun too?” Mortified, he and his red-faced parents pretended not to hear.
And so four to six weeks pass and it is now time to climb into bed with your partner to have sex. This is the moment things can go two ways: your heartbreaking experience can bring you closer or it can start to subtly pull you two apart.
Study after study has proven that a child who is educated and comfortable with their body and their sexuality will abstain from inappropriate sexual acts. I call it being sexually self-confident. As well, I believe it is just plain smart to have kids well versed in sexuality before they go off into their MTV world.
There was a pregnant pause over the phone line and then a confused, “Sex once a week…? That’s the challenge?” With a deep sigh, I had to admit that even to my own ears it sounded pretty lame.
How could I explain to my (childless) friend that taking a shower once a week was an exercise in time management gymnastics—and a much higher priority than sex?
I peed my pants, once again, in the span of 25 minutes. I felt the uncontrollable gush while speaking with our home renovation contractor. Slamming my knees together, praying it wouldn’t drip down my legs, I immediately cut off the conversation. Slowly I waddled to the bedroom to change my underwear and shorts. Again.
It was a week before my due date and I was not a happy camper.
In his absence, I took a long shower and washed my hair. Utterly in denial of facing child birth. A fourth massive gush reminded me that this was very real and that in the next day or two I would be a mommy.
I’d just pushed 8 pounds of baby out of my cootch; 8 pounds of baby that was now attached to my now-pancake-sized nipple, and I could barely waddle to the bathroom without weeping in pain, so, trust me, Good Doctor, the last thing I want to do is stick something up a hole that has now been stretched out, once again.
Written by “Mommy Wants Vodka” from ToyWithMe.com.
There is no average for how many times a couple makes love in a week. End of story. Of the billions of people on this planet, you have a unique libido. Your life experience and stage of life create the ebb and flow of your sexuality.
Without thinking, you pick up the phone. They answer. You try to make some small talk but it is of no use. You ask them to come over for a “drink”. Both of you know that is code for, “Let’s have sex at least three times tonight.”
Women in general have a pretty twisted sense of body image. Those insecurities are personified when it comes to their vulvas. Your vulva is not some mystical wonderland you get to visit only while having sex. Your vulva is a part of your anatomy. You need to learn to treat it with respect and love.
Many a gal has recounted how they could not enjoy a romantic evening because her guy’s breath was repulsive. In trying to remedy the situation, they gave what they felt were obvious hints, like offering him a stick of gum, sprig of parsley or whatever breath freshener was available. Yet in the world of sex etiquette, who is responsible to take charge of said bad breath?
Intercourse is meant to produce a vaginal orgasm. Not all women can have a vaginal orgasm. What makes this ironic is a man is socialized to last as long as possible, as he is taught that it will give his partner the maximum amount of satisfaction. Of course neither discuss their intercourse differences.
I took a small poll and asked people what they thought about virtual sex. It was a unanimous opinion: virtual sex was a form of cheating. They also assumed there was something wrong or missing in a relationship in order for an individual to turn to sex on the internet. Or, if single, the individual was lonely and didn’t have the social skills to meet people in person.
Dear Dr. Brian, My girlfriend and I are getting pretty bored with doing it ‘missionary’ or ‘doggy-style.’ I know there are other positions out there, but what are the best sexual positions for sex? I mean, I want to blow my girlfriend’s mind like never before.
For couples there are several arguments as to why sexual fantasy is a good practice. It adds some needed excitement and is another way to add sexual variety and alleviate the boredom of regular “same-old” sex. But before we go any further into our discussion it is perhaps necessary that we define fantasy. By Denise J. Charles from her Red Red Apples blog
Dear Dr. Kat, My girlfriend wants to try anal sex, but we have no experience. It seems wise to start slow using lube, but what else might help in getting started?
I’ve been married for almost 14 years to my second husband. I’ve always felt that he has a “secret life” and that he is hiding something from me. I’ve felt sexually deprived for over ten years. I found out that he visits prostitutes and recently found print outs of trans sexuals. By Lou Paget
Dear Dr. Brian, I can’t orgasm when I am with my partner. Is it him? Is it me? What can we do to change this?
Dear Lou, I have been having incredible dreams about a woman I work with. I’ve never done anything with a female but I do think she is hot and actually have considered asking her out for drinks after work. Does it mean I am a lesbian?
Dr. Kat, I’m in my early 30′s. I’m having trouble staying hard after I cum, is there anything that I can do to stay hard and keep going?
Dear Lou: My new boyfriend still has all these pictures of his old girlfriend on the walls and constantly tells me ‘how she never did x,y,z’ that are things I do. Aside from this he is a really sweet guy but I feel am getting mixed messages from him and that I have all the problems.
What’s the best way to store sex toys? Right now I keep my vibrator in its original clunky plastic packaging, but I was wondering if there were products out there marketed toward storage and protection of sex toys and which are the best ones to use? Thanks, Dr. Kat.
Just because you are not in a ‘relationship’ does not mean you are dead. And solo sex just doesn’t cut it sometimes! Friends With Benefits provide convenient access to sex while not in a relationship. By Jocelyn Wentland
My boyfriend takes forever to come when I am giving him head. I feel like I must be doing something wrong because he takes about 5 times longer than my two other boyfriends. I used to really enjoy doing this and now it has become a real chore because my mouth and jaw get soo sore!! I really like this man but I do not feel like I can please him. Any suggestions?
How do you approach your wife, lover, sexual partner to discuss your fantasy about female ejaculation and how you want them to experience it?
My girlfriend is all about massages. It always used to lead to sex, but lately she won’t give it up after a rub down. I’m kind of confused. What is this all about?
Vibrating C-Rings are a guy’s and gals best friend. Dr. Brian dishes on what is a great product and what’s not. Find out the difference between “The Big O” and “The Duet”.
Sensual games are wonderful relationship tools to discover more about you and your partner. They provide hours of erotic entertainment and titillating adventure. Most sex games are quite cheesy although there are a few on the market that are great.
Semen, or seminal fluid, is a thick, off-white liquid ejaculated from the male urethra at sexual climax. But what you may not know, is that sperm only account for approximately 1% of the total volume of the semen. A single ejaculation usually ranges between 2-5 millilitres (1 tsp), and contains between 100-700 million sperm.
I am still a virgin a month after my wedding. I was told it would hurt and tear and I would bleed all over the first time. Whenever my husband stimulates me I get very sore. I am fine with oral sex but when he uses his hands it hurts me and even his fingers inside hurt me. I want to be a wife to my husband and don’t know how to deal with this.
I love my wife beyond words. Our sex life is absolutely FANTASTIC! I was wondering however, if there is some kind of a medicine of over the counter stuff I can maybe get from a novelty shop to help me last longer than I normally do. I’d really like to knock her socks off and give her a night of W-O-W!!!!
All of my friends describe an orgasm as a time when you scream with delight and just feel altogether good and excited. I think that I have had an orgasm, but if it is like that I am unsure. Please describe what an orgasm is supposed to feel like.
I cheated on my boyfriend and don’t know whether I should tell him. I think it’s better to not say anything and let it be water under the bridge.
The act of meditating may seem like some far-flung Eastern practice. Nothing could be further from the truth. There are a multitude of practical reasons why you (…yes, you) might want to learn to meditate as a skill to improve your overall heath and well-being.
It’s no secret what every man’s favorite toy is… his dick! Experts report that about 94% of adult men masturbate regularly. So why not do it with an amazing masturbation sleeve or device?
Condoms are highly effective in preventing (but don’t guarantee the prevention of) the transmission of HIV. However, condoms are not as powerful against STIs that are primarily transmitted through contact with the infected skin area. What measures do you suggest students take when engaging in a sexually active lifestyle with multiple partners?
Chocolate never tasted so good! Everyone loves eating chocolate…especially off a partner’s naked body. These chocolate sauces are warmed up and then applied to any body part imaginable and can be used to draw hearts or dirty pictures on your partner or inscribe sayings like “I Love You.”
Many years ago as a teen I used to ejaculate (I’m female) and BIG time!!! I am now 30 but for years now I have never ever once ejaculated again. I am thinking this is something psychological. As far as I know I don’t and never had G-Spot orgasm, I think it was clitoral. I would really love to get it back.
Lube is essential for every sexual being. It makes sex more fun and pleasurable. In case you didn’t know, slippery sex is hotter than dry, uncomfortable sex.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. Over the last 2 weeks he hasn’t wanted to have sex with me at all. I’m starting to think its me. We are only 21. I’ve tried making the moves but he just rolls over or ignores me.
Introducing sex toys into your regular sex routine can be quite simple if you think a few things through beforehand. Problem is, people hesitate to bring sex toys into the bedroom because they don’t know how their partner will react.
Hands-free couple’s vibrators have been created designed to be worn during intercourse. These ‘C-shaped’ toys have bullets on both ends and stimulate her clitoris and g-spot simultaneously, while sending vibes down his penis during intercourse.
In recent years, female genital reproductive surgery has become an increasingly popular trend. In fact, according to a recent study, vaginal cosmetic surgery is the fastest-growing cosmetic procedure in the U.K. Plastic surgeons attest that the vast majority of their patients were physiologically normal, with nearly all of them presenting with your average, everyday ‘beaver’. As this suggests, the issue isn’t incontinence, or any other medical problem. Women with healthy, well-functioning, ‘run of the mill vaginas’ are the one’s finding the flaws.
Sex is usually one of the first things to get thrown out with the bath water when we aren’t feeling well. But, surprise! There are actually healing qualities to sex that we may want to utilize in our pain management.
A reciprocal, sensual massage can be an utterly enjoyable experience. Not only is it relaxing, but it brings us closer to the one we love. And, it’s just as good if we are the one giving the massage.
I like sex but he wants it way more than me. What can I do?
These wonderful vibrating toys stimulate both the clitoris and vaginal canal. They usually have dual action rotating shafts and pearls that cause exciting sensations. They come in a number of shapes and sizes, but most look like a traditional vibrator with a ‘branch’ coming off of it to stimulate the clitoris. You insert the vibe until the clitoral stimulator reaches the clitoris.
According to my Drs. I have Peyronie’s Disease. I think it has run it course and I want surgery and mostly likely some of type of an implant to restore the shape and size of my penis. What advice do you have and what type of Dr. is best (urologist, plastic surgeon, other) for this type of procedure?
A recent shift has made bisexuality—specifically among women—trendy. Adolescent and young adult women hook-up to gain the attention of men. They are not necessarily interested in dating woman, they use bisexuality to seek male attention.
Male masturbation creams are very slick and are designed to enhance sensation and heighten a guy’s pleasure while he’s masturbating. Masturbation creams also make a wonderful lube to use during hand jobs.
Is there anything I can do to permanently enlarge my clitoris without surgery?
Introducing a new product called Sqweel stimulator from the folks at Love Honey in the UK. There have been a number of tongue-shaped vibrators on the market in the past, but nothing like Sqweel. This wonderful new toy will have you sqweeling for the other 365 days of the year.
My girlfriend doesn’t like it when I masturbate. She asked me how often and I said likely daily. She said this was too much, but when I asked her if us having sex everyday would be considered too much, she said no. So why would doing one everyday be more acceptable than the other?
G-spot vibes are curved at the tip to stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot area responds best to firm pressure with a mild vibration. A silicone vibe designed for G-spot stimulation works best to pleasure this area.
I’m back together with an ex-boyfriend from 20 years ago. The reason we broke-up was because he had cheated on me. He is terribly sorry he is for all the pain he caused me and yet confessed he had a second relationship for about a half year. How can I trust him now?
I’m really self conscious and only want to have sex with the lights off. My guy wants the lights on and I just don’t think I can think about sex when I’m too worried about what I look like.
Is it true that guys can make their cum taste sour or sweet?
There are a number of amazing male toys on the market including male masturbation devices and cockrings, however, in this expose we will focus on vibrating prostate gland toys for the guys.
There isn’t any physiological reason why a couple shouldn’t have sex during a woman’s period. All aspects of her sexual response are the same. In fact, couples can use a vibrator or have oral sex, if they choose.
It’s the question every man wants to know. How long is the average penis? There is a perpetuated myth that the bigger the penis the better. Or, that you need a large penis to satisfy a partner. This is definitely not true!
It’s really hard for me to do the 69 position because my tongue is not by the sensitive side of the penis. Other than trying it on your side, do you have any tips?
My wife and I are in our 50s and were wondering about vertical hood piercings and Prince Albert piercings. Are we too old for genital piercings? My wife is post menopausal and could this also help her in some way? Do older people do this to spice up there sex lives or is this uncommon?
If you’re looking for the perfect sensual gift for that special someone in your life, Dr. Brian Parker has compiled his top ten holiday gift ideas for the gifts that keep on giving and giving… orgasms!!
I’ve heard that some women experience an ’orgasmic birth. Is this true? How can I make this happen for me? Orgasmic birth is when a new mom is able to orgasm just as her baby exits the birth canal.
What do you recommend for protection in the case of confirmed genital herpes that is not on the penis (but in the groin area) and the female partner is negative. Are there any products such as polyurethane shorts?
The last time I was getting oral sex from my partner I lost my erection. To make matters worse, this happens quite often. Why does this happen to me and what can I do to stop it from happening in the future?
People feel guilty about asking for what they want in bed. Instead of being really clear about what they want and seeing whether their partner is up for it or not, they don’t ask at all or only ask for a small percentage of what they need, feeling that everything in the bedroom needs to be tit for tat.
It seems no one (at least under 30) is letting his or her bush sprout. And, with so many people trimming their hedges, one does have to wonder what they are there for in the first place? Experts aren’t exactly sure why we have pubes, but there have been a few theories,which seem to make sense.
There are many ways to overcome a low sexual desire and I’ve listed the top five below. When going into the sexual experience—it’s all about you, and your needs, wants and desires do matter and will be attended to.
Sex without commitment can improve your life, or so says Stanley Siegel who believes casual sex gets a bad rap. The truth is, long-term relationships or marriage do not guarantee a satisfying emotional life or sexual intimacy. By openly exploring our fantasies and true desires with different partners in a way that may not possible in a committed relationship, we can transcend our inhibitions.
Part I of 911. Like most people who lived in this area of town, Claire was no prude. Waiting until a group of pedestrians went by and making sure at least a couple of them were looking up at her, she suddenly pulled her blouse over her head. She wasn’t wearing a bra, having ditched that as soon as she’d gotten home from work, and she sighed as her 36C breasts were released.
Part II of 911. The male officer, a very well-built man with broad shoulders and a narrow waist, Claire noticed, moved down the hall, his female partner close behind him. Claire glanced at the clock: there was still a good half hour to forty-five minutes before she expected Anthony to return. If she played her cards right, that would be plenty of time.
Many men (and women) have low testosterone for many different reasons, and Danielle and Celeste give some alarming facts in the big “T” conundrum. They also give you five real ways to naturally boost your free testosterone. Here’s our top five list of things to do to naturally boost testosterone.
Part 3 of 911 “Yes, I’ve…thought about other women. Sometimes…” Benson shuddered as Claire took hold of one of Benson’s hands and placed it on her own breasts. “But, I’m not that way. Really, I like men, I’m not a lesb—” Claire didn’t let her finish as she covered Benson’s lips with her own.
New research by Kristen Mark found that sexually adventurous behaviors were associated with higher relationship and sexual satisfaction levels in the participants’ current relationships. Find out what these sexually adventurous behaviors are…
Part 4 of 911 Anthony smiled, then lowered his lips between Benson’s legs as Claire held Benson’s pussy lips open. As she assisted her husband in pleasing Benson, Claire moved back and forth against Renner’s partially sagging cock. “We’re not finished yet, Officer Renner.”
I want to share my fantasies with my partner but I’m embarrassed. How can I share that side of my sexuality with them?
Contrary to researchers’ expectations, men and women reported that they were equally likely to be the first one to fall asleep after having sex. Thus, there was no apparent evidence of a widespread angry woman/tired man stereotype.
There are plenty of reasons guys like breasts. Nipples are directly connected to a woman’s genital nervous system. In fact, women can have breast orgasms. In one study of 213 women, 29% had experienced boob bliss at one time or another.
The Va-jay-jay. The Vagina. The Vadge (thanks, Superbad). All words to describe a body part with an actual name of vulva. Think about it, we don’t teach girls about their bodies. What boy doesn’t know that his penis is called a penis? How many of us use slang to label our daughters’ vulva or even worse refer vaguely to ‘down there?’
In recent years, a few ‘hands-free’ couple’s vibrators have been created designed to be worn during penis-vagina intercourse. Some are ‘C-shaped’ toys (like the We-Vibe or LELO Tiani) and have an insertable portion, as well as a bullet that stimulates the clitoris. Others are vibrating bullets that are ‘worn’ during sex (like the FixSation) to stimulate the clitoris.
Do homeopathic remedies have a legitimate place in promoting male health? Dr. Dudley Danoff, M.D. weighs in on whether Bayer HealthCare claims that selenium in its One A Day vitamins may reduce men’s risk of prostate cancer.
Sexual desire discrepancy is when one member of a couple has higher (or lower) sexual desire relative to their partner’s sexual desire and can become a significant problem in a relationship. A recent study on sexual desire discrepancy provides valuable insights into desire within couples.
Social messages shape and play a role in your sexuality, desire and turn on. How you feel about yourself as a sexual person has a huge impact on your libido and, unfortunately, in our culture and many others, women’s sexuality is repressed and stigmatized.
Part 1. It was going to be another long, boring evening at the office, Marie thought to herself as she finished up another report. As was often the case, she was one of the last ones there for the day, along with Alicia and Rich. And they were the only really good things about her job, she reflected.
Is it true that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s? No, there isn’t a decade when a woman reaches her sexual peak. Today women have multiple partners before marriage and are a lot more sexually confident.
Part 2. Marie noticed a funny look, a naughty grin, creeping onto Alicia’s face. “What are you thinking?” she asked. “You aren’t really going to…” “Well, I was thinking…No, no, never mind,” Alicia said quickly, turning back to her desk.
According to Denise Charles, where sex is concerned there is always the element of choice. She explains that there are a number of ways individuals and couples can and do choose to deal with the issue of bedroom boredom.
Women become different people when they are trying to conceive. It is like a robotic chip has been placed in their brains and they become baby-making machines. And, unfortunately, if there is no proper communication between the couple to express how they are feeling, the ability to be sexual with one another can be seriously jeopardized.
The old saying, “Happy wife, happy life” started me thinking about men and their sexual plight. After his teenage years where his guys-gone-wild antics are both expected and praised, the average guy in a long term relationship gets the crummy end of the sex stick.
On the long list of things that help parents become asexual, getting caught in the sex act is certainly a concern for many. Even though it is uncomfortable having sex while the kids are still awake can be, you need to be make sure this isn’t causing marital distress due to zero reconnection time.
Part 3 of this steamy erotic story. Alicia and Marie are working late and all alone in their office. One things leads to another and find themselves enjoying one another…until they are caught by Rich. Find out what he does and how he reacts. (Don’t worry it’s a happy ending!)
When couples come to me looking for a ‘magic pill’—what the pharmaceutical companies have promised as the hassle free way to fix their sexual woes—I patiently explain that it is just a pipe dream.
Even still, millions of women spend billions of dollars yearly on different products and services hoping to give their libido a kick start. And believe me, there’s a lot of pretender remedies willing to take your money.
Vibrators, dildos, and anal toys can be made from just about anything. Most toys on the market are poor quality and some are even harmful to the body. This ForeverPleasure.com guide will include information about all of the materials used in sex toy manufacturing in case you already have toys made from these products.
There is an old German proverb which says “When the penis grows hard, the brain goes soft.” A Penis Man has ‘two heads’ but is guided wholly and solely by the one in his pants.
The Penis Man is so much guided by the radar in his boxer-shorts that he will allow it to influence all of his decision-making. His good-judgment can become virtually non-existent because his penis is somewhat squeezing the very life out of the gray-matter in his brain.
My boyfriend keeps telling me he wants to have a three-way with another woman. I’m really not into this. In fact, it completely turns me off. However, I love him so much and I worry that he’ll leave me if I don’t comply with his wishes. Should I just do it and give him what he wants?
It is one thing to say I want to love my body, and feel comfortable in my skin; it’s another thing entirely to actually put that plan to execution. For real-life change to happen, people actually have to have the experience of feeling differently, not just the thought that they should.
Why is talking about masturbating such a taboo topic? Couples who decide to be in an exclusive, long-term relationship open up and share their finances, childhood hurts and future dreams but not their solitary self-pleasuring. It is almost as if many couples hit an intimacy and vulnerability wall.
Spring fever revving up your sexual desire is a real and researched fact. There are many other subtle, built-into-your-hardwiring cues that put the pedal to the metal and gets your sexual engine revving.
Emotional connection, also known as “intimacy,” is one of the most common desires that women have in relationship. And, while both men and women are deeply emotional creatures, men get very strong cultural messages about repressing their emotions. Women are generally given more permission for expression.
We all have sex dreams from time-to-time. The content can be startling and sometimes completely unbelievable. Our sex dreams sometimes reveal surprising things in their symbolism. The symbolism can show where your real feelings lie about someone (like your ex) and they can also have meanings completely unrelated to your sex life and sexual desires.
Woman can only have a clitoral orgasm with her when her legs are together laying straight down and lying on her back and believes there is something wrong. And what percentage of women can ejaculate?
There are a lot of women engaging in sex of all kinds but not having pleasurable experiences. If you’re having sex of any kind, it should be fulfilling on a number of levels. The first step is to figure out what is going on. So here are six physical and emotional issues that can affect your ability to enjoy sex as well as ideas to help you do something about it.
There are couples who love to have great sex, and I mean with a capital L. There is however one condition. They only want to have that great sex with the person to whom they are committed. Sex for such individuals is not an end in itself. It’s not a case of “any sex will do”.
Couple love has been conceptualized as either passionate or companionate. Passionate love is characterized by an intense emotional state where one longs for union with their partner. Companionate love is characterized by an intense state of connectedness, trust, and reciprocal respect for a partner. Kristen Mark gives the full research.
Dr. Kat gives a comprehensive guide to help couples understand and find the best couple porn for them. She discusses: the benefits of watching explicit films with your lover; tips for finding the right porn; and also tips for watching porn as a couple.
Alicia was heading to Rich’s house. She and Marie had moved in with their boss and lover, although they’d so far managed to keep the arrangement secret from everyone else at the office. When Alicia gets to the house, something is amiss. She soon discovers an intruder who wants to steal more than just the household goods.
Whether you’re about to purchase your first toy or you’ve got a packed pleasure trunk you should ask yourself a few simple questions to insure you purchase the perfect toy.
Study provides scientific evidence that sexy women are perceived as objects instead of persons. Persistent sexualization of women in the media has led many scientists to wonder what effects this might have on our psychological perception of women in general. A new study suggests that such media portrayals may be quite dangerous and could potentially be contributing to a major difference in how people view and treat women compared to men.
Part 2. The rose returned. This time it graced her cheeks, then her shoulders and arms. It disappeared momentarily, then she felt it again, now slowly—very slowly—moving down her spine in the small of her back. This time it didn’t deviate from its course to stroke her legs. It continued straight down, gently stroking the crack of her ass before caressing her pussy.
Dr. Pam answers: What are the main causes of loss of libido in men and women? Which age-group of men are particularly susceptible? What about more unusual and/or weird remedies? Are we programmed to lose our libido?
The more I have witnessed and become acquainted with the stories of couples, both married and unmarried, the more I am convinced that cheating is both an art and a science. Popular culture has done a great job at magnifying the notions of a great passion and the pursuit of the forbidden.
Millions of women have read Fifty Shades of Grey and are curious about BDSM. If the steamy pages of dom/sub play were a new concept for you and you found yourself excited, Becky Knight guides you through products to get your play room started.
Too many women believe there is something sexually wrong with her because she isn’t able to have an orgasm during intercourse. Or she can’t have a G-spot orgasm. How did all of this orgasm craziness get started?
Your sex life is on automatic. You have been with the same person a number of years now. You’re comfortable with your sexual routine: you kiss your partner, they give you oral sex, you then move into missionary position and you’re both done.
After Viagra burst on the scene, the drug industry giants scrambled to come out with an equivalent sex aid for women. One lesson we need to learn from this is: sexuality has become medicalized and about profits.
Recent survey showed 52.5% of women reported that they used vibrators. Vibrator use is significantly associated with a number of really positive health outcomes like getting a gyn exam in the past year, or performing a self-exam. It was also significantly related to sexual desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, pain, and overall function.
Making love in the water is a great way to add spice to your sex life. The key to fantastic sex in the water is making sure you’ve got enough lubrication. Penetration may be a little more difficult than usual because water washes away some of your natural lubrication. Lou Paget tells you how to have sex at the beach, pool and shower.
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Is it normal for Charlie Sheen to have two girlfriends? And what about the Calgary couple who are attempting to have sex 260 times in 2011. Listen in to this interview with Scott Thompson of CHML Hamilton
More about the Calgary couple who are attempting to have sex 260 times in 2011. Listen in to this interview with Scott Thompson of CHML Hamilton
Great interview with Shirley from Real Parenting CFAX 1070 We talk about: How much sex is normal? How does sex change during pregnancy or after baby? What if parents get “caught in the act” by the kids?
Forever Pleasure Top 10 Holiday gift guide for 2010 is discussed on the Scott Thompson Show CHML Hamilton. Really, really fun & funny interview. Go my blog, Forever Pleasure Top 10 Holiday Guide to see the entire list.
There you are in the middle of things and your child walks in on you and your partner having sex. What do you say? How do you react?
In this podcast this Steve Cooper from HitchedMag.com and Dr. Trina discuss how you can not only manage this situation but turn it around and make it a constructive sex-ed conversation with your child. Plus they answer a question from a concerned parent who doesn’t know how to deal with her teenage daughter hearing her and her husband having sex —not once, not twice, but three times!
Scott & I discuss a “Sex Show billboard” put up near an elementary school whether there is implications of over sexualizing for our kids. Scott Thompson Show
Your child tells you they’re gay. How do you respond?
Find out in this podcast with HitchedMag.com
In this podcast, Steve Cooper and I discuss how to best respond if your son or daughter tells you they are gay. We also talk about how to handle any outside family members who might not handle the news well, as well other conversations parents need to have with each other.
Scott and I discuss what parents can do if their child says, “I’m gay”. Scott Thompson
Scott and I talk about the largest sex survey in recent history and why convicted murderer Col. Williams wanted to wear his victims underwear. The Scott Thompson Show
Dr. Trina explains the risks and complications that a couple has to deal with when one (or both) have herpes and are trying to get pregnant and/or are pregnant. HitchedMag.com for more podcasts.
Dr. Trina and Scott discuss the newest Canadian legislation looking to strike down the current prostitution laws. Dr. Trina believes sex work should be legal…and for good reason. (Go to http://scottthompsonshow.com to hear more from Scott).
Dr. Trina and Scott talk about the pros and cons of the pill versus other birth controls. The male birth control. And whether people from Vancouver and Montreal really are sexier than Toronto.
With the launch of her new website, Rob asks Dr. Trina some good questions about trying to have sex after kids.
Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine asks me four reader questions that cover the gamut of sexual issues.
Once we are in a long term relationship is it still okay to flirt with other people? Yes, as long as both people understand and respect boundaries; but as each couple is different they need to define what those flirting boundaries are.
Pharmaceutical companies want you to believe their is a Pink Viagra which will sex up women. That sexual desire is only a swallow away; and there is a magic pill dubbed ‘Pink Viagra’ (or Febanserin) for women to instantaneously help her desire sex. Problem is…
To date there is nothing FDA approved; however, that hasn’t stopped the pharmaceutical companies from laying the ground work with massive multi-million dollar ad campaigns.
Men are doing more housework but studies show that women still do the majority. If he takes five minutes to wash the dishes does that equate to five minutes of her getting in the mood for sex? Find out in this podcast.
A new study revealed that the more housework a husband did, the more sex he received from his wife.
HitchedMag.com interviews Dr. Trina and asks her whether this mean women who do all of the housework now have a good excuse for not wanting to have sex?
Sex expert Dr. Trina Read explains why women like bad boys and how this relates to non-bad boy married men.
It’s something that we don’t discuss yet many couples have a satisfying sex life well into their 60s and beyond.
You’re two different people and you most likely have two different sex drives. Dr. Trina Read answers a reader question about how to negotiate having different sex drives and ways to get on the same page.
Men like to look at porn. It’s normal and in most cases healthy. However, what happens if men start paying more attention to what’s on their computer screen then who’s already in their bed?
Dr. Trina Read and Steve Cooper from HitchedMag.com addresses the idea of whether there is such a thing as “online porn addiction”; the problems it can cause a marriage and what couples can do about it.
With the current economy, just about everyone is feeling a little more stressed. Dr. Trina Read explains how stress affects the sex lives of couples and what they can do about it.
The holiday season brings with it much fun, festivity, love and…STRESS. Instead of taking your frustration and stress out on your mate, make sure to keep your thoughts sexy and your special someone close. (Ooh la la)
This is the first time I’ve addressed sex in the realm of spirituality. It’s an interesting interview for those who want to take their relationship to the next level of intimacy.
Listen as Dr. Tina Tessina talks about: as society becomes more mobile and as jobs move or involve travel more than ever, couples must create ways to stay connected while physically separated. Even working different shifts or managing long commutes may mean couples living in the same house never see each other during waking hours.
Chocolates and flowers are nice but there are many more ways to say, “I love you” and absolutely spoil your partner. Listen in as I share five easy ways a couple can have a romantic, fun (and hopefully sex-filled) Valentine’s Day.
Kim Switnicki’s shares her extensive expertise around finding your G-Spot, and she’s going to dish on this hot, hot, hot topic that couples want to know. Sex educator, speaker and coach Kim Switnicki,
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Lioness for Lovers, has recently published
G-Spot PlayGuide: 7 Simple Steps to G-Spot Heaven.
It seems being tired is the socially acceptable way to get out of having sex. But is it really doing a couple good to use this excuse, bury their heads in the sand and not figure out a way to get their sex life back on track. Find out as Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine interviews Dr. Trina on this touchy topic.
Dr. Tina Tessina discusses her book, Money, Sex and Kids. Some things we discuss: Why to do when communication breaks down around sex? What are the first steps in getting communication back on track?
Going into a sex story or shopping on line for a sex toy can be a daunting experience. With the hundreds of options available, it’s overwhelming to make a decision. Add to this that there are a lot of ‘unsavory’ products on the market that consumers need to be buyer beware. Luckily, Dr. Brian Parker, owner of Forever Pleasure talks us through how to make an educated purchase.
Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine and Dr. Trina talk about adventurous places to have sex.
Dr. Trina Read and Steve Cooper of Hitched Magazine discuss sex for couples over the age of 50. Dr. Read explains how sex has to change because our bodies change and what we can do—hopefully to achieve “ferocious” sex.
Dr. Trina breaks the taboos about sexual fantasies, explains how you can introduce fantasy into your sex life and offers tips to make your exploration a fun, exciting and healthy success. Go to Hitched Mag.com (Hitched Magazine) to hear many more podcasts.
Men and women often carry different perceptions and comfort levels with their genitals. Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine and I discuss why this is and what can be done about it.
Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine and I discuss the launch of my Six Month Sex Challenge, a weekly blog about getting back into sex after baby.
Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine and I discuss whether or not a date night implies sex for couples, particularly for couples with kids. You’ll also learn of a new Japanese holiday.
Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine and I discuss aphrodisiac foods: what are they, how did they come about, and are they even real. There’s a lot to digest here.
Steve Cooper from Hitched Magazine and I discuss what I’ve learned four months into my Six Month Sex Challenge, including when to resume sex, how much sex is normal and what are some things couple need to consider after having a baby.
In a two-episode podcast, I offer five romantic gestures for him to do for her and for her to do for him. One reason for two episodes is that what men and women find romantic differs.
Listen as Steve Cooper from HitchedMag.com and I discuss why I decided to create Have Sex After Kids.com and some tips for parents who want to have sex.
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Ohh la la!
Please note: This audio contains explicit content and is suitable for listeners 18 years and older.
Raquel meets Buck in a bar; despite his cheesy pick-up line his charm entices her into a little fun with a surprising twist!
Listen into this erotic audio story and if you like this, there’s a lot more to listen and read on TrinaRead.com
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Paint me, she said and Charlie couldn’t resist. It’s carnival and folks get kind of crazy, horny too.
With his shirt off, her naked and filled with excitement, he creates a creature that takes his breath away. Masked in paint, she takes him out, or is it the other way around?
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A young lady attends a royal ball hosted by a prince who is seeking a wife.
The questions that so many couples ask is answered in this podcast. “How much sex is normal?”
There are three different types of orgasms a woman can have. Is one of them the best kind to have? Dr. Trina Read explains.
Dr. Trina is a huge fan of Cory Silverberg. In this podcast the two delve into the murky realm of virtual sex and find out what’s the truth, what’s a myth and everything in between.
What couples need to know about buying and implementing sex toys into their relationship.
The number one reason couples in North America stop having sex is a lack of desire—or a lack of ‘wanna’. Not surprisingly, a couple’s desire—or wanna—is directly impacted by stress.
In this podcast, Lorna McLaren, Training Specialist, International Speaker talks about the affects of stress on your sex life and, more importantly, what a couple can do.
What happens to our sex life and mentality after we get married? Dr. Trina Read explains.
What’s a guy to do when he wants sex? How should he approach his significant other? Dr. Trina Read has these answers and more.
In this podcast, Dr. Trina and Steve Cooper from HitchedMag.com about ways couples can to initiate fun and play in your sex life this Valentine’s Day. Included: how men and women differ in their sexual expectations and should you ‘surprise’ your Valentine with a sex toy or lingerie.
Too tired to have sex? Do you have kids, work opposite schedules or have other reasons why your sex life isn’t what it should be? In a two-part podcast, Dr. Trina Read explains how to turn things around. (Part 1 of 2)
Too tired to have sex? Do you have kids, work opposite schedules or have other reasons why your sex life isn’t what it should be? In a two-part podcast, Dr. Trina Read explains how to turn things around. (Part 2 of 2)
Sex expert Dr. Trina Read exposes the truth about bringing sex toys into your relationship and if there’s any reason to worry about using sex toys.
Dr. Trina Read responds to a reader question from a husband who thinks his wife is faking having an orgasm.
Scott and I talk about how I become a sex expert and some more funnier things that happen in my practice.
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We chat about my book, Till Sex Do Us Part as well as retired sex and the Sexapalooza show.
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We talk about shower sex, my six month sex challenge and how to find a date.
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Scott and I discuss the different types of orgasms (yes, this was done on the radio) that a woman can have.
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Scott and I discuss Jesse James admitting himself into sex rehab as well using sex addiction as a ‘plausible’ reason for a guy to cheat. News/Talk 900 CHML, ScottThompsonTalk.com
Tiger’s Nike ad, newly weds cheating and talking to your teenager about sex are discussed.
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Scott and I discuss whether the new laws around sex ed in Ontario are too radical.
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The Ontario government is waffling because of protests from a few angry parent groups about the proposed sex ed program.
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Porn, women’s porn, couple porn and why porn has such a stigma are discussed.
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Do men really need their ego (and their penis) stroked?
Apparently yes. Find out why.
Most men have a healthy relationship with their penis so why is it important to praise your man’s penis? In this podcast ScottThompsonTalk.com and Dr. Trina talk about how to praise his penis and how to bring dirty talk into your bedroom.
Is it real and how does it affect our sexuality. Plus, how many calories does sex burn?
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We discuss the highlights of my Six Month Sex Challenge. And what’s the most important thing dads need to make sex happen faster.
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It’s normal after you get married for your sex life to cool down. The bigger question is what can you two do about turning things around.
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